The Power of Community in Sobriety: Why Women Heal Better Together

For a long time, alcohol took something from me that I didn’t realize I would ever get back.

It took my ambition.
My motivation.
My follow-through.

It took my ability to show up for myself and my goals — especially my dream of making music.

Sobriety gave me all of that back… and more.

It gave me the ability to pursue wellness of mind, body, and soul. It gave me my lifelong desire to become a music artist again. It gave me a cause to stand behind. A vision to build toward. A reason to expand beyond survival and into purpose.

And the community that formed around me — these incredible, loving sober women — gave me the encouragement to actually step into it.

To have a bigger, broader vision of how we can make an impact in lives — together.
How we can help elevate women into spaces that uplift their families for generations to come.

I’m not sure if I couldn’t have done it alone.

All I know is… I didn’t.

And maybe I wouldn’t have.

Because it’s the togetherness of the journey that inspires me the most. A team to share the vision with. A circle to build this world with.

Being supported by other women feels like a void being filled that I didn’t even know existed — a return to a fuller, more whole, more authentic version of myself. One who laughs more, apologizes less. One who feels more empowered to show up exactly as she is. One who shines whatever light is there in the moment — or isn’t.

When Women Don’t Feel Safe With Each Other

Like most women, I know what it feels like to be disappointed by other women.

I’ve felt betrayed.
Left out.
Disconnected.

For a long time, it felt like we didn’t share common ground or values. And like many women, I’ve known what it’s like to feel competed with instead of supported. Compared instead of celebrated.

That changes something in you over time.

You get guarded. You get careful. You keep your dreams quiet.

Soberana changed that for me.

What made this circle different is that every woman in it — through her own recovery journey — has made a commitment to deep inner work and emotional awareness. These aren’t surface-level connections. These are women who understand that in relationships, you get what you give.

We show up for each other.
We root for each other.
And the support really does come back tenfold.

What changed in me was this:
I started showing up in leadership.
Taking more action.
Initiating social change.

And it felt like this group of women who fanned my flames - with love. With their own.

Either way, a fire started. And together, this heart-led determination to uplift women feels like it can make real waves.

A rising tide raises all ships.

And this tide has certainly raised mine.

What Our Community Actually Looks Like

Soberana began very simply.

A group of sober women meeting weekly on Wednesdays in a private women’s Zoom circle. Sometimes we’re together in person. Often it’s a blend — some women in the room, some joining virtually.

We gather intentionally.

One woman typically leads and shares for a longer period, offering prompts and themes. Then each of us has space to speak — about wins, struggles, growth, fears, realizations, or whatever is alive in us that week.

It is both structured and raw. Grounded and organic.

We leave space between shares for reflection. For wisdom. For another woman to offer insight if she feels called.

I can’t speak for every woman — but I know I’m not alone in this truth:

I always leave feeling more nourished.
More inspired.
More strong.
I always leave lighter.

That’s the power of being witnessed honestly.

What Community Means to Me Now

Before sobriety, community meant… a local park.

That’s genuinely the extent of the concept I had.

Now, community means something you actively show up for. Something you contribute to. Something you nourish. It’s a living thing — and when tended to, it gives back in ways you never expected.

Today, I believe healing happens when you practice enough self-love to be honest with yourself. Honest about the ways you are sick. About the ways you need support. About the ways you need to grow.

Healing starts with honesty.

And honesty thrives best in safe community.

For the Woman Who Feels Alone Right Now

I’m writing this for the women who already walk inside the Soberana circle. The women who inspire me weekly through their courage and compassion.

But I’m also writing this for a past version of me.

For the woman who, not that long ago, felt like she didn’t have a single real friend. For the woman who felt disconnected. Isolated. Unseen.

Life is a contact sport.

You have to show up.

And you have to keep showing up.

Only then do you find the love you’ve been looking for.

Only then do you realize you were never meant to do this alone.

Soberana Is About More Than Surviving

Soberana exists because we believe women deserve more than survival.

We believe women deserve to thrive — together.

We believe that when one woman rises, she creates space for others to rise too.

This community isn’t just about sobriety. It’s about leadership — in our private lives and in the world. It’s about learning how to use our voices. About embodying integrity. About building lives that feel true to our spirits. That utilizes our gifts: our passions, our experience our determination - to BUILD.

Soberana is where sovereignty meets healing. Where creativity meets responsibility. Where recovery becomes a foundation for purpose, not the end of the story.

An Invitation

If any part of this resonated with you —
If you’ve been curious about sobriety,
Or craving real connection,
Or longing to belong to something rooted in truth and growth —

You’re not alone.

We’re building this slowly, intentionally, and with heart.

If you’d like to stay connected, learn more about Soberana, and be part of where this is going, I invite you to join our newsletter and walk with us.

You don’t have to have it all figured out.

You just have to show up.

My goal is to build the space I once needed—and to keep holding the door open for every woman who’s still finding her way.